Don’t Be the Best in the Room: Finding Partnerships That VIBE

“This is going to make me sound like a snob, but I think you need to level up the caliber of individual you associate with.” – Me

Yesterday, in a phone call with a fellow female entrepreneur, I learned that for the SECOND time, someone close to her was taking advantage of her generosity and kindness.  These individuals are moochers, vampires and the sort of person who thinks “She won’t feel it if I continue to take from her,” “She’s rich, it’s not that much for her to lose,” or “What’s the big deal, I bet she won’t even notice, she has so much.”

My friend has been inspiring me for nearly a decade with her boldness, ingenuity, and determination.  She has built multiple start-ups at this point, and yet, she hasn’t built a circle of individuals thriving on the same level.

So, my question is… why would someone so fantastic do this?

The answer, I believe, comes from how she and I both made our start in the world.

I recently posted what it meant to be “an EXPANDER”.  You can find this on LinkedIn and Instagram, but here it is again:

An expander is someone who stretches the perceived limits of possibility—both for themselves and for others. They are self-taught, self-made, and forged through experience, not entitlement. Often rising from scarcity, constraint, or invisibility, they create a new path through courage, curiosity, and relentless self-belief.

They are not just builders of success, but transmitters of permission—by embodying what’s possible, they activate possibility in others. They don’t just grow; they stretch the field for everyone watching.

This is me.  It is also her.

She and I met one another in the same season of life and socioeconomic conditions.  We were both quite used to “pulling ourselves back up again”, being on our own, pushing through in spite of setbacks, and working to be more than our circumstances had dictated.  It’s why we connected so well.  It is a rare thing to find new close friends as an adult, so I think both of us knew this was to be something special. 

We have now served as support, cheer, level-headed feedback, and sounding boards for one another for nearly two decades.

What I have noticed is that despite both of us constantly expanding, we felt the need to remain tethered to our humble roots. 

Seems like a GOOD thing, right?  WRONG.

Once you have left the old version of yourself and moved forward, you must seek those who would continue to lift you up.  Yes, you should give back!  But not to the point of suffering.  And definitely not to the point of diminishing your essence.

Relationships and partnerships should:

• provide us empathy, understanding, respect, and knowledge.
• expand WITH us.
• meet us where we are AND where we are meant to be. 

I am disappointed that her big heartedness has been taken advantage of.  Again. But I am not surprised. 

Let’s talk about this situation in terms of energy.

When a group of people come together with the specific intention of collective consciousness to change some “thing” or to produce an outcome, if they create it with the energy and emotions of peace, unity, or oneness- without physically doing anything- they unified community can produce changes 70 percent of the time. – From “Becoming Supernatural” by Dr. Joe Dispenza

Energetically, when you begin to vibrate at a higher-level, you must seek out others to make great change.  I have found it can be agitating for someone who is vibrating at a lower one.  It’s uncomfortable.  It is confusing. They simply can’t process where you are.

There’s a reason for the saying “misery loves company”. 

Watch out for that.

In my own life, once I begin to separate from my surroundings and relationships, I feel the tension build in my gut.  In the past, I typically responded by self-isolating.  I found myself desperate to protect my energy.  I approached my relationships in this way both personally and professionally.  It’s always sad and it does feel like a loss, but for me, it’s always worth it. Eventually.

Now…

• I understand that we are not meant to hold onto everyone.
• I use my intuition to find those who “feel right”.
• I seek those I can continue to expand with.
• I place myself in spaces I can grow into. 
• I balance “being the best” with “learning from the best”. 
• I practice connecting with others who balance with my own vibe.

Now, I say, don’t ever be the best in the room. 

In my own work, I seek those who create this balance. 

I have high expectations for my connections just as I have for myself.  My clients and colleagues need to be driven, goal-oriented, organized, and uphold a strong work ethic.  But most of all, they need to energetically and emotionally align with me.

Together we are more powerful than alone. 

Together we can make the biggest impact.

Are YOU one of my “fellow vibers”?  I would love to support you on your journey to greatness!

Potential Clients:

My website was revamped this week by Becky Luna Designs (another expander, by the way) and I am open to meet.

If you are curious about how I serve my clients, grab your spot for a FREE 30-minute ReSPARK session.

Fellow Creators:

If you are a creator looking for guests to interview for your blog, your YouTube channel or Podcast, I would LOVE to connect! Email Me.

Until next time – keep shining for those who would otherwise remain in the dark. 

Be the light!